Posts Tagged ‘friends’

What it’s like to not understand sarcasm

It’s unfor­tu­nate, but I don’t have a sar­casm detec­tor and take the world very literally/at face val­ue. I there­fore spend many of my days feel­ing like the humor­less fem­i­nist stereo­type. Be nice to peo­ple like me, please!

Posted: February 17th, 2012
Categories: comics, Daily
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In the spring and fall, the climb­ing rose bush­es in our back yard put out bloom after bloom. This year, the cool weath­er and con­sci­en­tious water­ing by John helped make for a boun­ti­ful crop. This was notable because I killed at least one bush by trim­ming it back way too far at the begin­ing of the sea­son.

When the blos­soms start­ed to open up too far, we decid­ed to extend our enjoy­ment of the flow­ers by pick­ing the best buds and plac­ing them around our house in tiny bud vas­es. One by one, the ros­es passed on, first becom­ing dried red crum­ples atop brit­tle branch­es, and even­tu­al­ly sucumb­ing to a black, spi­dery mold that filled the neck of each glass.

That is, except for one spe­cial rose. Despite all odds, this lit­tle plant keeps hang­ing on, send­ing its roots out into the water below and push­ing its green stem up towards the light.

I am remind­ed that, like friend­ships, most plants require a lit­tle more care than this rose, which seems con­tent to sit above my fire­place in a vase.

This week, one of my dear­est friends of the last 15ish years is mov­ing far away. Anoth­er friend did the same the same this past fall. And yet anoth­er is think­ing about mov­ing on in the next few months. When things like this hap­pen, it is easy to think that the friend­ship will be okay on a shelf with the occa­sion­al drink of water and a kind word or two. Or that every­thing will mag­i­cal­ly come back the same when you see them next sea­son. The real­i­ty is that while great friend­ships aren’t demand­ing, they do need a lit­tle more care than they let on.

I am hop­ing that my super life-lov­ing rose will stick around for a while as a reminder to tend to and cul­ti­vate my rela­tion­ships both near and far.

Posted: January 25th, 2010
Categories: Daily
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